Second Weddings

Second Weddings

My best friend is getting married again after losing her first husband to cancer. This will be a second wedding for both the bride and the groom. The bride has no children and the groom has 2 adult children. It will be a small ceremonie, held outside, with just family (and of course her best friend!). She wants to keep it simple, yet elegant. We were wondering what the protocal is for a second wedding. Is there any information we can access?

In my opinion, a wedding is something to celebrate. Be it the first or second, don't feel restricted by other's opinions. Marriage is a new beginning. It is a time to rejoice. You have weathered the storm of death and divorce and now choose to go on with your lives. That alone is something to commend. There are still those folks that feel a marriage, other than a first one, should occur without fanfare. Don't let them rain on your parade. Have the wedding you want, hoping they will help in making your day special. If they choose not to, it will be their loss.

Just as in a first marriage, the guest list should be designed using both the bride an groom's family and mutual friends. Also included should be those who have remained close from a previous marriage, such as former in-laws. If everyone feels comfortable, then they too should also be included.

The ceremony and reception should be built around you as individuals and as a couple. Second celebrations tend to be either casual, as in a outdoor barbecue theme, or intimate events focusing on elegance with smaller numbers.

All resources first time brides use apply to you as well.

Happiness always,
Wendy