Gift Card Missing
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Gift Card Missing |
Dear Wendy,
One of the gifts which we received (which was deposited at the
reception) did not have a card or a tag. It is a lovely Mikasa crystal bowl. It was not purchased at one of our registry stores. Is there some way to tactfully investigate the identity of the giver, without offending or "putting on the spot" any guests who have not or did not give us a gift? About eight parties in attendance have not given us a gift as yet.
reception) did not have a card or a tag. It is a lovely Mikasa crystal bowl. It was not purchased at one of our registry stores. Is there some way to tactfully investigate the identity of the giver, without offending or "putting on the spot" any guests who have not or did not give us a gift? About eight parties in attendance have not given us a gift as yet.
We would like to thank the gift donor, if we only knew who it was.
Any response would be appreciated.
-Mark S. Farrior, AIA
Let me start by telling you a little story. My husband and I attended a wedding during the summer months. Knowing the bride loved hand crafted items we ordered a hand-made quilt for a wedding present. I put tissue paper inside a shoe box with the brochure from the quilt makers (no prices were mentioned) attached to our card. When we still had not received a
thank you three months after the wedding, I did some checking. The quilt had indeed been crafted, shipped, delivered and signed for by the bride. My worry was eliminated, but it was replaced with anger in regards to the newlyweds complete lack of courtesy towards their guests and proper thank you notes.
thank you three months after the wedding, I did some checking. The quilt had indeed been crafted, shipped, delivered and signed for by the bride. My worry was eliminated, but it was replaced with anger in regards to the newlyweds complete lack of courtesy towards their guests and proper thank you notes.
I would not want your guest to have any of the above described emotions. It is because of this, that I would write a thank you card to each of the nine couples you have narrowed it down to. A good way to ease the awkwardness of the thank you is to introduce some humor. Such as begin your thank with:
"There are three things in life that are certain; death, taxes, and missing cards. Guess which has occurred" or " Will the real gift giver please stand up". There is no way to beat around the bush in this situation. You want to recognize the giver, as you rightly should, and in doing so you might step on some toes. Continue on by saying you received a beautiful Mikasa bowl without a card. Since you don't know who the correct purchaser was, you are sending out a thank you to all those who signed the guest book
in hopes of thanking the missing person. Go ahead and say you are sending the thank you notes out to everyone when in reality you are only sending them out to those nine couples. They won't know the difference and this way they won't feel as if they are being singled out.
"There are three things in life that are certain; death, taxes, and missing cards. Guess which has occurred" or " Will the real gift giver please stand up". There is no way to beat around the bush in this situation. You want to recognize the giver, as you rightly should, and in doing so you might step on some toes. Continue on by saying you received a beautiful Mikasa bowl without a card. Since you don't know who the correct purchaser was, you are sending out a thank you to all those who signed the guest book
in hopes of thanking the missing person. Go ahead and say you are sending the thank you notes out to everyone when in reality you are only sending them out to those nine couples. They won't know the difference and this way they won't feel as if they are being singled out.
Happiness always
Wendy
Wendy
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Happiness always,
Wendy
Wendy
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